101 Faith Place
Entry points for nurturing faith in the home

Living Faith
Foundations for forming faithful disciples...

101 Faith Place is designed as a quick reference for parents looking for ways to nurture faith in their home and family life. It suggests creative, natural ways to bring God to mind during ordinary moments, routines, rituals and special occasions. There are no prerequisites, equipment or necessary supplies. All you need is a heart and mind that is open to God's spirit moving in these days and times.

Setting the Stage

One Sunday, I arrived early to pick up my daughters from church school. As I waited in the hall with other parents, I pulled out the family calendar to coordinate another week's worth of activities, inevitable conflicts and "catch and carry" meals. In the background, I could hear children singing. "Faith walkin' people (clap, clap)...." It had a fun beat and if I hadn't discovered a conflict in Tuesday's schedule, I might have hummed along. "Faith Talkin' People (clap, clap)...." They continued to draw me into their song ." Ok..." I sighed, "Maybe I'll just mumble along." "Sing and pray and live each day, learning about God's special ways....." Suddenly I thought, "Wait a minute! This is going too far! We only have time for church on Sundays from 9:15-10:30. Why would they expand the program for "singing and praying and learning about God's special ways" to everyday?!! We've got too many other things to do! I've got to talk to these people! What are they thinking?!" 1 Rollie Martinson, Luther Seminary

Managing extracurricular activities is an overwhelming reality in families today. Dozens of specialized programs and organizations entice parents with their ability to enhance a child's growth and development. They enrich the home with the service they provide but often threaten to reshape it with their own set of expectations and requests.
     
Take a moment to reflect upon your home. As you open your front door, what image comes to mind? Is it stressful or peaceful, a challenge or an inspiration, a workshop or a playground, a revolving door or a "drive thru," a refuge or grand central station, all of the above or none of the above? As varied as the answers might be, most people regard the home as the most influential place in the world.
     
The home is where it all begins. It sets the stage for mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and relational growth. "Whatever else families are doing, whether intentionally or not, whether constructively or not, they are passing on values and faith of one kind or another"1 Research confirms the role parents play in nurturing faith. When Search Institute in Minneapolis, Minnesota did a study on effective Christian education in mainline churches, it discovered parents were the greatest religious influence in their children's lives. 

Among Lutheran youth surveyed,
* 67% were involved because their mothers modeled faith.
* 43% were involved because their fathers modeled faith.

AI pray that Christ will make his home in your hearts through faith. I pray that you may have your roots and foundation in love, so that you together with all God's people will have the power to understand how broad and long, how high and deep in Christ's love.@ Ephesians 3:17-18

What about the church! I thought they were supposed to be the ones to teach kids faith!?

The church sets the pace for nurturing faith in children, youth and families. In Holy Baptism, parents age to take primary responsibility for helping their children live godly lives. They promise to "faithfully care for their children and help them in every way as God gives them the opportunity." The task and privilege of the church is to welcome, engage and support these children and their families as they live their faith in daily life.
     
The church provides a faith base for strengthening The church provides a faith base for strengthening a person's identity in Christ. As God's people "sit at the feet of Jesus" they receive life giving perspectives that flow through their attitudes, actions and conversations. They are refreshed and renewed by God's gracious love and forgiveness as they participate in worship and the sacraments. The variety of programs and opportunities for worship, education, fellowship and service provide a vital link for living faith in daily life. They provide key tools and inspiration for gaining clarity and confidence in God's plan and purpose.

So I'm in charge of the "singing and praying and living each day!" Where do I go to get a crash course in "God's special ways?" Where's my script? Are there rules or guidelines for nurturing faith?!

There is only one prerequisite to nurturing faith. A person must have an open heart and be willing to let the love of Christ shine through. God has gifted each person with a unique blend of characteristics and abilities to reflect God's own love and creativity. As people open their hearts and minds to Jesus, they begin to see themselves and the world through God's "eyes." Faith becomes the lens through which they view everything they choose to do! And, living and sharing it becomes something you can't help but do.
     
You just "do it." You utilize the same skills and creativity you use in other forms of communication and appeal to your natural ability to relate to people. Before you begin, consider the person, the place and the circumstances involved and you adapt your conversation accordingly. Basically, you just "do it!"


D
Discern the appropriate time and place to share.
O
Open your heart to the age, stage and unique characteristics of the individual and respond accordingly.
I 
Interpret your thoughts in real, relevant ways.
T
Trust your own ability and reason for sharing.

Could you give me a few examples of some entry points for nurturing faith?

The following pages highlight some of the many ways faith can be nurtured during some of the most ordinary times and places in family life. Dozens of practical suggestions also energize the rhythm and seasons of the calendar year with a variety of creative and practical entry points for faith sharing. Included are easy-to-use ideas, discussion starters, activities and service projects that have been inspired by biblical tradition and Lutheran practice. Consider prayer your "entry point." Let God's Spirit lead you as you consider the many ways you might nurture faith in your family life. Keep a notebook handy to record your own inspirations!

Nurturing Faith

Everyday in every way...

There are many everyday ways to nurture faith in families. Four key areas2 to consider for faith sharing in the home include:
1. Caring conversation    
3. Service opportunities
2. Devotional life              
4. Celebrations and rituals
Caring conversation" nurtures caring relationships. A "devotional life" includes Bible reading and occasions for meditation and prayer, and gives perspective to the world that swirls around us. "Service opportunities" encompass the home and the community. Patterns for dealing with conflict and it's resolution are a part of "rituals and occasions for celebration." The majority of ideas shared on the following pages will fall into one of these four categories. Refer to the table of contents on page 2 for specific reference to an occasion or special event. This listing barely skims the surface of the number entry points that exist as you walk through your day. Allow them to inspire your creativity as you intentionally nurture faith in your home and with your family.              
2 David Anderson, Youth and Family Institute of Augsburg College

On the Home Front

Day by day, day by day,
Oh dear Lord, three things I pray,
To see you more clearly,
love you more dearly
Follow you more nearly, day by day.

Times to Celebrate!

New beginnings: first day of school, day care.
Good medical and dental check ups
Driver's license
Good test scores or accomplishing a project
Learning to read
Graduation
Major home task completed
Toilet training

Learn Bible verses that promote healthy behavior such as Psalm 19:14--"May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O,Lord."--and post them on your refrigerator.

Prayers to Pray

Help your children understand that prayer is talking to God and that prayers come in all shapes and sizes. They can be formal, conversational, written, spoken or sung. They can be creative and even fun. Help your children memorize common prayers for daily use: the Lord's prayer, a table grace, a bed time favorite. Teach them also how to be spontaneous and original. A prayer begins with a greeting, such as "Dear God," and continues much like a conversation we might have with another person. The top four things children naturally talk to God about include:

1. Things for which they are thankful
2. Requests for things they'd like (nice weather, good grade on a test, etc.)
3. Requests for the health of people they know
4. Requests for God's understanding and forgiveness for mistakes they've made.
     
Make the most your children's earliest years. Nurture their ability to pray regularly and often. God isn't looking for grand and glorious prayers; God simply longs to hear our voice anytime, anywhere and for any reason.

Dear Jesus,

Thank you for my family to live with heart to heart; to hug to smile, to laugh with, we've been together from the start. And, for the times when we forget how special we are, help us to LET GO and make a FRESH NEW START. Amen

Dealing with Conflict and Forgiveness

Associate conflict resolution with forgiveness. Help family members understand that conflicts arise when something is not working. Teach them how to stop and figure out what the problem is and choose a new way to handle it. Encourage your children to "STOP" and use this process as they prepare to make a fresh new start:
S - Step back and identify the real problem
T - Take time to get your heart ready to resolve the conflict
O - Be Open to considering the many ways to solve it
P - Remember, People are ultimately more important than the problem
Then, when you're ready... GO for it!
G - Go over the problem with the other person and choose an option for resolving it
O - Openly ask for forgiveness and offer to make a fresh new start

Things to do

One day Ginny was working in the kitchen and anxiously watching the clock. She had several tasks to do and very little time to do it. As she talked through the list of things she had to accomplish, her three year old tried to intercede, "Mom...Mom... Mommy,..." After several interruptions, Ginny finally knelt down in exasperation to sigh and say, "What-- is it?" "I just wanted to tell you that "I'm a helper, so you can just ask me." "You are?" "Yup. My Sunday School teacher said that was the #1 thing God wanted me to be!" "Well, how about helping me?"

Here, There and Everywhere

Just after God inspired Moses with the Ten Commandments as a framework for faithful living, God went on to present a model for experiential Christian education. God recognized the parent's role in nurturing their children's faith "on site", urging them to use a variety of different learning styles and contexts in their teaching. "You shall love the lord your God with all your heart, and soul and with all your might. Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart, recite them to your children and talk about them when you are at home and when you are away, when you lie down and when you rise " (Deuteronomy 6:4-7). The task is to recognize the teachable moments.

Children yearn to feel a sense of belonging and engagement with you and the many tasks you do. Be mindful of your children's needs to learn by doing and the significant role you play in mentoring them.

There is no one day or time set aside to nurture faith. Every season gives new reasons to celebrate God's presence and activity in our lives.


Nurturing Faith Throughout the year...

Birthdays

In one family of four growing girls, the birthday focus is on giving gifts of love to everyone. The birthday person thinks of inexpensive or homemade gifts to give while the sisters think of birthday gifts they can bring to their annual birthday breakfast.

Baptisms

Baptisms can be as memorable and meaningful as you nurture them to be. If you have questions about baptism or desire age appropriate ways to describe it, contact your pastor, church librarian or nearest Christian bookstore.

Back to School

Harvest and Halloween

Thanksgiving

Christmas

Two parents were busy trying to choose activities to include in their Christmas traditions. The list included cutting a fresh tree, hanging outdoor lights, wrapping gifts and visiting Santa. Their two and a half year old heard them talking and said, "When will we be putting up our Bethlehem?" Her comment preempted any further considerations. They found a large box for their stable and small one for their manger. They hung a few stars on their windows and collected some oversized shirts and stuffed animals to be a part of the scene. And the little one proceeded to spend the majority of December sitting by the manger taking care of baby Jesus.

Valentine's Day

Before and After Easter

A father was pushing two little girls on swings across the street from a church. As one pointed out the cross on the top of the church, she said, "Daddy, why does Jesus have to keep dying on the cross every year. Before the father could answer, the other little girl said, "Until everyone knows why he did it." The father honored her comment as he gently explained how God's people gather to understand and appreciate what Jesus did so long ago.

Summer Fun, Vacations and Family Time

Elsa was walking along a side walk one summer day when she suddenly dropped down and put her nose to the ground. She was mesmerized by an over populated ant hill. She redirected their paths with her fingers and slowly positioned her hand so they could run over and around her. She sat for along time before she got up and studied it from a variety of perspectives. Then she turned and said. "I bet God watches us like we watch ants. Now I understand how God can see and touch me.@

Making the Connections Between God's Story and Our Story

Parades           Mark 11:1-11 (Palm Sunday)
Picnics            John 6:1-14 (Feeding the 5000)
Fishing            John 21:1-14 (The miracle of the fish)
                     Jonah 1 (Jonah and the whale)
Gardening         Matthew 4:30-32 (Mustard seed parable)
                      Luke 8:4-8, 11-15 (Parable of the sower)
Camping           Genesis 28:10-22 (Jacobs ladder)
Travel              Luke 2:41-52 (Jesus in the temple)
                      Luke 2:1-7 (Mary and Joseph go to Bethlehem)
Sightseeing       Genesis 1:1-31 (The Creation Story)
                      Psalm 8:1-4
Boat rides         Mark 4:35-41 (Jesus calms a storm)
                       John 6:16-21 (Jesus walks on water)
Zoo                  Genesis 6:9-8:22 (Noah's ark)

Strengthening The Church-Home Connection

Nurturing faith in busy families requires the support of the wider faith community. Make church a priority for your whole family. Look for opportunities to strengthen the connection between church and home.

Ok! Now I'm on overload! When will I ever fit it all in! I've circled enough ideas to last a lifetime!

That's what tomorrows are for! The most critical entry point is your willingness to consider the many opportunities you have to make your home a "faith place." This resource is intended to be an ongoing point of reference as you plan your days and special times. Pray that God will give you the wisdom and discernment to recognize and utilize your entry points. Make a commitment to be "faith walking talking people" everyday in every way!


Making the Connections

Consider the errands you run entry points for making faith connections in concrete ways. For example,

AT A GAS STATION:
"The gas tank's almost empty. Who fills your tank and keeps you going? What do they fill it with?" Faith Connection: God provides us with people to fill our "tanks" or lives with the things we need (e.g. food, clothes, education, piano teachers and athletic coaches, etc.).

GROCERY STORE OR RETAIL BUSINESS: "Look at all the things we can buy! They must have everything we need." Faith Connection: There is much God gives us for free (e.g. forgiveness, new days for fresh starts).
 

RESTAURANT OR FAST FOOD DRIVE-THRU:
"It's great to have a break from making meals. I really appreciate being served." Faith Connection: Helping each other is God's idea.

MEDICAL AND DENTAL CLINICS: "I'm glad doctors and nurses have learned how to take care of us." Faith Connection: God made our bodies to fight pain and sickness, bur sometimes our bodies need a little extra help from others.

SCHOOLS: "What did you learn today? Who were your teachers?" Faith Connection: God teaches us many things through other people. What do you think God was teaching you?

PEER GROUPS AND DAY CARE: "Who took care of you and kept you going today? "FAITH CONNECTION: God provides us with people who support and uphold us.

BANK: "I'm thankful for how banks help us keep track of our money, pay bills and save our extra cash. "Faith Connection: God wants us to use our resources wisely as good stewards.

PLAYGROUNDS AND WORKPLACES:
"What did you do at work or play today?" Faith Connection: God provides ways for us to develop our skills, gifts and abilities.
 

Writer: Miriam Dumke
Editor: David Poling-Goldenne
Design:  Sharon Schuster

Copyright 8 1999 by the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, 8765 W. Higgins Road, Chicago, IL 60631. 800/638-3522. Produced by the Division for Congregational Ministries.

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